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Giving A False Narrative About Your Partner To Make Others Feel Better

If you're the one who has been lied about in either of these situations, you know how bad this hurts. Take your partner aside and calmly explain to them that it hurts you when they say those lies and that you need them to stop. It's only causing friction between you too. And if you're the one guilty of spreading these lies, stop now and sincerely apologize. You should never feel embarrassed that they failed that test or didn't get that promotion, and you should always be openly proud of all of their accomplishments!y have a friend or family member who maybe was not able to accomplish as much as their partner has, and want to make them feel better by pretending their partner really hasn't achieved so much. Like I said, odd!


When someone claims that their partner is doing more than what they really are, that

is 100% coming from their own insecurities. They might want to be perceived as this "power couple" where both individuals are extremely successful in every aspect of their lives. But when their partner is maybe not succeeding as well as they could, it's ruining this vision of the "power couple," and makes the other feel insecure. Instead of being open and honest that their loved one is struggling, they'd rather lie to fill this fake persona that they have created in their head. If you've ever experienced this from your partner, you most likely were very hurt and embarrassed. It made you feel as though you weren't good enough and that you'll never look "successful" if their eyes. I'm telling you this now, do not feel down on yourself! You ARE successful and ARE good enough, no matter what they may have said. Remember it was out of their own insecurities, not yours. And if you're guilty of making up lies like this, you need to stop immediately. You need to identify your own insecurities and work on fixing those because at the end of the day, you're only hurting your relationship with those lies.


When someone claims that their partner is doing less than what they are, they're doing it to protect the feelings of others. This situation, to me, is just insane. There should always be pride in your partners' accomplishments and there is nothing wrong with celebrating them. If you have accomplished something great and your partner told others that you did not achieve anything because it may have made a loved feel bad, you would be so extremely hurt. Your partner has witnessed all of the hard work you put in to meet a goal of yours, they should be screaming down the neighborhood in excitement for you, not telling lazy bum number one (who is most likely sitting in front of the TV all day) that you haven't done anything just to avoid hurting their feelings. And if you're the one who refuses to be open about your partners' accomplishments, stop this now! Just as in the other example, you're only hurting your relationship by doing this.


If you're the one who has been lied about in either of these situations, you know how bad this hurts. Take your partner aside and calmly explain to them that it hurts you when they say those lies and that you need them to stop. It's only causing friction between you too. And if you're the one guilty of spreading these lies, stop now and sincerely apologize. You should never feel embarrassed that they failed that test or didn't get that promotion, and you should always be openly proud of all of their accomplismemts!








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